My boyfriend confessed he’s been cheating throughout our five-year relationship

DEAR DEIDRE MY partner cheated on me on our very first date.

I found him outside the pub with a man and he said it was sexual assault.

That was five years ago but just last month he told me the truth, that it had been consensual sex.

We are two openly gay men and he was only 20 when we met.

I was 26 and felt protective towards him.

We’ve been together for five years and he’s now admitted he has been cheating on me throughout our relationship.

He’s picked up men for casual sex and even had men in our bed.

I know he’s a cheat and a liar but he says he loves me and hates himself for what he is.

He says the pandemic has made him rethink his values and behaviour but I feel broken inside.

Do you think he can change?

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DEIDRE SAYS: He can, if he’s truly remorseful and knows he wants to be faithful to you from now on.

You both need to understand why he was cheating on you for so long.

He needs to share with you the efforts he’s making to change.

You can both find support through Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline (switchboard.lgbt, 0300 330 0630).