DEAR DEIDRE: UNTIL he “puts in the time”, they say, my family won’t accept my boyfriend.
He visits his kids at weekends so is often not around when my family get together. Mum thinks he’s lazy and selfish because he never turns up.
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My partner’s 36, I’m 29 and we’ve been together for eight months.
He’s amazing but my family aren’t convinced after hearing about his past.
He was known for being the local lothario. He also got himself into some money trouble, thanks to gambling.
I know he’s changed but my family aren’t convinced.
They demand he comes to lunch at my mum’s place every Sunday. But that’s normally when he sees his two sons, who are seven and four.
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It’s ridiculous. My sibling’s partners were never expected to be at these gatherings.
They’re out of order.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I can understand your family wanting to get to know your partner.
Ultimately they are looking out for you – but they need to be understanding about him seeing his sons.
Could you suggest a get-together at a convenient time for your boyfriend – an evening out, perhaps, or a walk?
Once they see him putting in the effort, I am sure their demands will stop.
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