DEAR DEIDRE: I AM convinced that my partner is having sex with my cousin after I welcomed her into our lives.
I feel like such an idiot for letting her get too close.
I am 35 and my partner is 37.
We have been in a relationship for seven years and have two children together. My cousin is 29.
Most of my family are from down south, so I didn’t really know her, but when she got a job in our home city of Manchester, I readily offered to help her settle in.
My partner and I helped her move into her accommodation and showed her around the city.
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Our children were excited to meet a new member of the family.
One night we arranged for the three of us to meet but I had to cancel as our babysitter let me down.
My partner went out straight from work and I suggested he carry on without me. But he didn’t get home until the early hours.
The next morning I saw a message flash up on his phone. It was from my cousin asking when they could meet up again — just the two of them “for more fun”.
When I confronted my partner, he said they had been to a club, but insisted nothing physical happened. I was devastated and still suspicious.
He always wants lots of sex at the weekend but that weekend, he didn’t touch me.
Then I found blurry photos on his camera roll from that night.
In a couple of shots he is all over her and in one, her hand is on his groin.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your partner has admitted he acted like an idiot and was no doubt flattered by the attention of a much younger woman.
You have been doubly betrayed by two people you should have been able to trust.
It can be hard to rebuild trust, and takes dedication from both partners.
Begin by telling him that he has to start by being honest about what happened and needs to show real remorse.
You will both need to be willing to work at your relationship, if only for the sake of your children to begin with.
My support pack Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help you both.
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