DEAR DEIDRE: I AM dating a lovely guy but he is a widower who lost his wife to cancer two years ago.
We both say we love one another but I think he feels he is cheating emotionally on his wife’s memory.
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I am 48 and he is 47. We have been together for three months but he and his wife were together from their teens. He says he is ready for a relationship but not to have sex yet. I’m scared that will never happen.
I encourage him to talk about her as much as he wants and I like to think I am supportive. But I don’t know where to go from here.
DEIDRE SAYS: He and his wife were together a long time but, if you want a full relationship, you don’t want to get stuck in the role of supportive friend.
If his wife really loved him, she wouldn’t have wanted him to shut down part of himself after she’d gone.
Suggest he contact Cruse bereavement care (cruse.org.uk, 0808 808 1677).
But maybe set yourself a time limit for things to change.
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